Long story short, I ceased all contact with my mother and step-father over 6 months ago. I admitted to my husband (after some online counselling) that my step-father abused me and my mother was generally controlling and nasty. I told him that I needed to stop contact for the sake of my sanity and safety of my young daughter, which my husband agreed was the right thing to do.
However, i recently confided in a friend about my childhood and she said about how I should tell my brothers as one of them has a young daughter also. I completely agreed but after keeping something like this so secret for so long and fearing that no one would ever believe me, I had never told my brothers.
I sent my brother a message saying not to leave his daughter with my dad. He replied asking why. I text back that I couldn't go into detail but said what kind of man he was and that he needs to protect his children. Obviously this is one of the many reasons I have cut contact. I have never had a reply.
This was nearly two weeks ago and I feel very let down on one hand and angry on another. Does this mean that after I finally had the courage to tell him, he doesn't believe me? He hasn't asked me if I am ok or if my mother knew or anything. I already felt left out because I had decided to have no contact with my parents. But now I feel like my brother doesn't care either. I wish I could go back in time ans change what happened to me, to wish I could have told every one at the time and made my mother listen to me - but I cannot. I dreamed night after night of telling people what happened and in the dreams they never believed me. It was a recurring dream. And now it seems to have come true.
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whatsallthehullaballoo · 06/06/2011 20:11
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