Hi
I am married and have been for 7 years, it was our anniversary just before the Bank Holiday we have two children who are in preschool aged 3 & 4 both of us are 27
Problems as I see them:
Not once helping me whilst they are ill (they where both ill with various bugs for nearly a month of sickness and diarrhoea)
Never cooking a meal and expecting me to cook every day - although I am a SAHM just doing something when he is about would be a bonus
Appears to favour DC1 over DC2 a lot to the point where I get DC2 asking why does daddy only like DC1
Only ever dealing with the nice part of childcare
Snoring meaning I have to exist on broken and disturbed sleep
Criticizes even when I feel I have done a good job
Not caring at all about my interests or feelings
The fact that I have to ask PIL when I want a break and I would never get a lie in otherwise
The way he looks at me with such disgust in your eyes
The way he would rather go to bed at 8:30 than spend anytime in the same room
The fact that he talks to me not as someone he cares about but as someone who is not worthy of your time
The way he doesn't appear to love me any more
The way nothing I can ever do is ever to the right standard
The way his needs and wants are somehow always more important than mine and the boys
He always seems happier when I am not about
I can't make him smile any more
They way he jumps in with the boys when I am dealing with a situation but I am never allowed to jump in when he is doing the same despite the fact he are being unreasonably harsh to one of the boys because he expects far to much of them
He calls me names and insults me and think it both normal and acceptable
He won't talk to me to tell me what I have done wrong to make you hate me instead he basically tells me to fuck off
The way he refuses to be anywhere near me in bed and then complains of the backache which he caused himself by hanging off the edge of the bed lest he gets even remotely near me
The way he prefers to have DC1 in bed so he doesn't have to be near me
The way he would be better of with someone who he can actually love
The way he deserves someone so much better and on his wavelength than me The only reason we are together is for the boys
The way that we both want each other to change into something we are not The way I disgust and repulse him so much because I am fat but the only reason I eat so much is because I am so sad and angry
The way I wonder though if everything might change if I was more attractive and thinner
The way I wish he loved me or even just didn't hate me would be an improvement on this existence
The way I think you would be happier if I got hit by a bus tomorrow
I am a sloth an oaf, lazy fat, cow, bitch, and many other names he has called me despite the fact that I do call him on it just not strongly his main problem I think is that I am rubbish at housework (although I believe I keep it reasonably clean and tidy) and as he see's it just sits on my fat arse all day wasting his money and ruining the house - despite the fact that the only money I use is for food shopping and children's things when they need them
He is now taken to staying away, he went out straight from work Wed, Thur he was out on Friday and is out now, he told me he won't be too late tonight as he has an early start tomorrow but not to bother waiting for him for dinner I am 5ft 5 and I weigh 12 stone I wear size 14-16 clothes and consider myself two stone heavier than I would like to be.
I know there is most likely no hope but I don't know how I can cope to leave, the eldest is starting school in September and I would be reliant on benefits until the younger starts I feel so lonely
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