While my dh was away recently I found an email from Illicit Encounters online dating agency saying his membership was just about to run out, also there were several other emails from similar agencies. When I looked in his sent mail box
I found seven emails to women with his photo attached, also one had a letter
saying how he enjoyed chatting to her and that he thought they would click
emotionally and phyisically, he didnt want a one night stand and maybe they could meet for a date and maybe more. Totally shocked I looked through his bank statements and found a transaction for Easy Date. uk another dating agency, this was dated 2008.
Over the years, we have been together for 17 years there have been many times he has disappeared for hours at a time, late home from work and not being able to reach him on his mobile.
When I confronted him with what I found he denied doing anything wrong, said emails were spam mail and that someone must of hacked into his computer and sent out the emails from him, is this possible? Promised he had never been unfaithful and would never risk our marriage and hurt our 2 dc.
First I wanted to believe him, but I feel so devastated by this, every thing goes around and around in my head there are just too many things for there not to be something going on. Hes always loved female attention and I think going with married women keeps it safe in that they wont want him to leave me, so basically he gets the excitment of an affair and all the comforts of home.
I never thought he would do this to me, I love him very much and I go over and over this with him and he wont admit to anything I just dont know what to do. I am heart broken and my life has fallen apart, why are men like this?
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dh on married dating internet sites.
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