Do I cut my mother out of my life?

[summer30]

Sounds like such a cruel thing to do, don't really think it's something that can be done! But I'm so hurt by my mother, I phoned her over a mth ago to tell her I was pregnant( with my 3rd) Now I was so excited about it that i just picked up the phone and told her the good news, she was the 1st person I told cos I was only a mth gone. her respose was oh no no no why did you go and do that! I just had to politely end the conversation. My heart just broke from those words. It's a mth since i told her and she has made no contact with me(we live in different countries). I'm trying so hard to put her words behind but it feels like i'm going into depression about that conversation, why can't she just be happy for me.
Now I do have 2 dd's from a previous relationship that I had many hard times with ex but i've moved on. I'm with my new partner almost 4yrs and he has no kids of his own. is it wrong for me to want another child, to build up my family? I have never asked my family for anything for my kids and or myself nor have they ever given us anything. My mother won't even buy a ticket to come and visit us and to see how we live.
Maybe i'm just crazy expecting her to show an interest now cos when i think about it, I had my 1st dd @ 19 and she never help me with the baby then and at that time i was so young and clueless and needed her by me side...
oh well maybe by writting this i can put all this behind me and enjoy carry my precious baby someone that will love me unconditionally...

[StellaSays]

You of course have the right to do as you choose with your life and your mother shouldn't be making you feel this way.

Was this a one off comment or has she been attacking the way you live your life before?

IMO cutting her out is a little drastic but you know best how she has affected your life. If she is not adding anything positive then why bother contacting her?

[Playdohinthewashingmachine]

You may not have to do anything so active as cut her out. It sounds like you can just back off and not bother contacting her. If she wants a relationship she'll be in touch eventually. And then you can decide how much of yourself you want to give her, iyswim.

The hard part may be dealing with how you feel about it, if she doesn't get in touch. It is very hard when you have babies and your own mum doesn't want to be a mum to you, isn't it?

Look after yourself, enjoy your family and your friends. And congratulations!