A couple in a very long term relationship are having problems. Over decades one partner has been repeatedly unreasonable. The other partner has tended to deal with these transgressions in a passive-aggressive fashion, huffing rather than discussing. This has bred resentment to which the unreasonable partner is oblivious.
Does the huffing one have some responsibility because they at no point laid down the law and made it clear what a huge problem the behaviour was causing? Should be unreasonable one be held wholly responsible despite the severity of their behaviour's effects never being made clear to them? If the unreasonable one has been genuinely naive how can they be held responsible for the resentment which only exists because the other partner has never truly addressed the issue?
And where to next? Or is that an end to it, by this stage?
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In this hypothetical scenario, should responsibility be shared?
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fartingfran · 16/05/2011 16:53
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