Brief background - DP and I were together for a year. Then we moved in together for a year. Then after numerous huge arguments regarding dishonesty, disrespect and controlling behaviour he moved out. A month or so later we began drifting toward one another again and decided we got on a lot better now that we didn't live together. So we went back to dating and the current situation is that he sleeps at my house every other saturday when my kids are at their dad's house. We also see each other on the odd day during the week when the kids are at school. It all seemed alright at first but now I'm so confused I just don't know what to do anymore. I know for a fact he still lies. I only know about small things that don't really matter but it proves he can still lie. I know deep down I don't trust him, I'm constantly second guessing what he's up to, who he's seeing and what he's thinking. I used to check his phone when he lived here because of the lying, now when I get the opportunity to check it I don't and the reason for that is because I DARNT as I'm scared as the what I'll find. Ignorence is bliss and all that.
I know by now anyone reading will already be writing the words "why are you bothering???" but I can't shake this feeling that I'll miss him too much if I let go. He stayed here last night and I can still smell him, I can still feel his arms around me in bed, I can still feel his stubble on my face - I don't know if I love him, I don't know what I think of him. Half of me wonders if its HIM I feel so desperate to cling on to or just a man in general.
I don't know what to do, this relationship is terrible for my health, I know that but my stupid heart won't let me end it. I feel wrecked.
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SineadTemptation · 15/05/2011 21:47
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