Hi, I?m mum for my 2 year old beautiful baby daughter. I met my daughter?s biological father in 2008, moved in with him and unfortunately very soon got pregnant. We lived together for about 2 years when I found out that he is transgender living double live as women, fully dressing up, chatting and meeting up with other men and even had his own she-male escort service while I was pregnant and later on while I was raising our baby thinking he?s/she?s working proper job.
Last time I saw him/her was about 6 months ago when he/her dared to come to visit our daughter having fake eye lashes on, it?s needless to mention that he/she looked as a clown and I don?t want my daughter to be confused at such young age. It is not acceptable for me or my family and never will be.
Beside I have met a new partner who truly is like a real father to my daughter.
I have found some articles about children of Trans but it?s mostly about teenagers that lived with their dads for years till they discover they fathers are transgender. Also have seen some web sites that explain transgender lives and how hard it is for them and etc. but not much info about actual women (partners of transgender) and where they can seek for help and advice. How they cope, sure we have a feeling too! I don?t care about him/her to be honest but it hurts so much thinking one day I will need to explain things to my daughter.
Is it really acceptable for people like my ex to have kids deliberately?? As I now know he/she had these strange things going on with him/her since early age (dressing up, being confused who he/she is etc.) and then start relationship hiding it and living double live.
Has anyone here has any experience in such things? I would love to have a private chat with someone with similar problems? just to try to understand what would be the best thing to do next or maybe find some answers.
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KelKelKel · 12/05/2011 23:38
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KelKelKel · 12/05/2011 23:38
Hi, I?m mum for my 2 year old beautiful baby daughter. I met my daughter?s biological father in 2008, moved in with him and unfortunately very soon got pregnant. We lived together for about 2 years when I found out that he is transgender living double live as women, fully dressing up, chatting and meeting up with other men and even had his own she-male escort service while I was pregnant and later on while I was raising our baby thinking he?s/she?s working proper job.
Last time I saw him/her was about 6 months ago when he/her dared to come to visit our daughter having fake eye lashes on, it?s needless to mention that he/she looked as a clown and I don?t want my daughter to be confused at such young age. It is not acceptable for me or my family and never will be.
Beside I have met a new partner who truly is like a real father to my daughter.
I have found some articles about children of Trans but it?s mostly about teenagers that lived with their dads for years till they discover they fathers are transgender. Also have seen some web sites that explain transgender lives and how hard it is for them and etc. but not much info about actual women (partners of transgender) and where they can seek for help and advice. How they cope, sure we have a feeling too! I don?t care about him/her to be honest but it hurts so much thinking one day I will need to explain things to my daughter.
Is it really acceptable for people like my ex to have kids deliberately?? As I now know he/she had these strange things going on with him/her since early age (dressing up, being confused who he/she is etc.) and then start relationship hiding it and living double live.
Has anyone here has any experience in such things? I would love to have a private chat with someone with similar problems? just to try to understand what would be the best thing to do next or maybe find some answers.
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