If Lundy Bancroft was an abuser...

[sundayrose10]

could you imagine trying to get out? the man is so knowledgable on abuse it has crossed my mind several times when reading his book. This is not a slur on him and his book was def an eye opener for me (and countless other women I would imagine) but every time I see his name on here, I wonder how he is as a partner. A good one I should imagine.

I might not be making much sense. Just a thought process I have.

[HerHissyness]

Thing is, Lundy has exposed how they are all pretty much the same, and shown their methods and modus operandi, so he'd have to conform to that model in order to be a successful abuser.

Only thing is, he'd have to be outstanding at gaslighting to convince the victim that she was imagining it, but even then, he'd not be able to pretend he wasn't doing it.

Wonder if MNHQ could get a webchat with him?

[bleedingstill]

am i the only person in the world who does not think his book is 100% wonderful? I found it very patchy and a bit rambling

[bejeezus]

lol...thats so wrong!
and exactly the same kind of day-dream that I would have

good crappy hollywood plot though

ive just started reading the book- dont you think its patchy-because not all of it will be relevant to each person?

[Anniegetyourgun]

According to his profile, Saint Lundy of Bancroft is divorced. Make of that what you will.

Crackin' book though.

[MsToni]

I agree, "crackin' book"

AND some of our resident housewives should read up and see how they fit the role of abusers. Silly Cows!!!!

[TheCrackFox]

I haven't read they book but maybe his dad or another relative was an abuser?

[womblingfree1970]

I just wanted to say as some here might not realise this.There are DV counsellors(those who actually counsel the men on batterer programs)who were originally abusers themselves.Just the same as there are women who work for places like womens aid,SS or Dv counsellors who counsel the victims who were victims themselves.

There own experiences give them a real insight into whats happened.They can empathise with the victim.And as for the abuser turned counsellor.He knows what 'tricks' an abuser uses to manipulate their partners.There are a few 'converted' abusers who really have changed their lifes around and want to stop other abusers.