Been together for around four years. He moved in with me around 2 years ago. I am the breadwinner, he earns minimum wage. Everything he own was paid for by me, the furniture, the car etc. Things were great between us at first, we had loads in common, went out a fair bit, had similar interests and he was great with DD. After a year or so I found out he'd been lying about things. Silly debts (like buying an ipad on a credit card when he had no money to pay for it) and texting/facebooking other women in a way that suggested if I hadn't found out, it wouldn't have ended innocently. I got it all out of him but other stuff started to piss me off too such as his messyness around the house, he turned really boring, never wanted to do anything and complained that DD was spoilt when I bought her stuff (My money, I'll do what the hell I want with it tbf). Then the icing on the cake was that he agreed with his ex wife that their son could move in with us and didn't bother telling me until a WEEK before the lad was due to arrive. I did not agree but what could I do at the end of the day? His mother was leaving the country for 6 months and DP had already agreed to it. Well the kid is a nightmare, he's loud, cocky, messy and I'm expected to buy him the world when he asks for it "because you buy her everything".
So I'm at the point now where I just want them BOTH out. Thing is, DP would be up shit creek without a paddle if I did this because he'd never be able to afford to rent a place of his own (and would fail credit checks anyway), without my car he won't be able to get to work and he won't be able to afford another one and he won't have enough money to re-pay the stuff he owes.
Is it my problem? should I allow it to be my problem or am I being a cold hearted bitch just wanting to pack him a suitcase and say cheerio? I also know he's been slagging me off to his son (seen the text messages) and taking the piss out of me to work collegues. I don't love this man. I want to see the back of him. I begrudge my money being spent on "keeping" him and his son. I want my house back and my car back. Is it really bad to just chuck them out?
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I want rid of them but it will really mess him up. WWYD?
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