I have been questioning a few things recently but would appreciate some honest (even if I don't want to hear it) opinions.
I have been with hubby for 17 years (we met when I was 19) and have two lovely kids aged 7 and 6. When we first met neither of us had a bean but we both saved hard to buy a home.
My DP has control issues and I have always agreed with him on financial matters. We have separate accounts and he earns 39k pa and I'm a stay at home mum but have a couple of part time jobs term time and my total income is about £5k pa. He pays all the bills and food shopping, one weeks holiday a year and puts a sum in the pot per week for weekly spend. I buy the childrens clothes, school trips etc. my clothes, one week uk holiday (god bless The Sun offers) and any decoration/furnishing that the house requires. He works 9-5 and in turn I keep kids and house so he doesn't need to.
I am wondering whether this is fair? We run one car and our mortgage isn't huge but he says that we are bumping along the bottom so we don't go out for meals, take the kids to the theatre, etc. I appreciate that a lot of fun can be had in the woods for nothing but every now and then? He has recently been going through receipts asking me to justify the shopping bill (even though im within his budget) and he went berserk when I spent £10 on having the car washed. I have access to his credit card but only use that for petrol.
I have rambled but am feeling very cheesed off at the moment! Please advise.
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Wayhay · 21/02/2011 06:34
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