Hi..have posted some months back about my dh who can have episodes of losing his temper/being grumpy and blaming me for things which aren't my fault.He is also uncommunicative in general and obstuctive/difficult about arranging things,joint responsibilities etc.Our marriage is over and we are civil and polite at home apart from when he gets moody sulky and grumpy.He is unable to see things from other peoples point of wiew and is selfish.However he bigs himself up at my expense so makes me look in the wrong.
Things will be fine for a while with family life continuing on an even keel,and i had thought to ride it out for the dc...none of whom want to move house or change the status quo.He is very strong minded and manipulates the dc onto his side.
I want to live separately,me with the dc but he will contest this and if i instigate a permanent split,the dc will know it is my choice and i am afraid they will side with their father as they want everything to stay the same....my concern being he will try to stay without me in the house with the dc ...i won't let this happen.
I am unhappy with this man,unhappy with his influence on the dc but can't get a plan to make him move out as he has refused.If I move out i am afraid the dc will not move with me so it seems as if i have to continue on for fear of losing the dc .The dc know he is grumpy but don't think he is bad enough to live separately.
It seems to me the best plan is to put in divorce proceedings and then force him to move out when it comes through...have spoken to solicitor already who says agreement is best but if that is impossible to go for divorce on grounds of unreasonable behaviour...i just hope this improves things as opposed to making things worse as dc will obviously be looked after by him so will still have his influence,andI won't be there to counteract it ...and the trauma of the split may be worse than the status quo.
TIA
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cant see a way out without losing dc full time
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howtodothis · 13/02/2011 11:47
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