H and I been on rocky ground for a while now. I was forty a month ago, he did nothing, got me a card from kids and that was it. He said he was skint but I know he wasn't, he earns a lot of money. He just spent all his cash on other stuff. My birthday just wasn't important to him. It was quite embarrassing as everyone kept asking what he was doing for it and obviously he made out he had big plans but in the end did nothing. He has actually always been quite unpleasant to me on days that were special for me, birthdays, mothers day etc, almost angry at me for daring to want them to be acknowledged. He hates to praise me for anything, is very judgemental and has extremely high standards well for me that is, not himself.
He drinks a lot, spends tons of money on that. Does nothing to help round the house and is very verbally abusive if I ever call him on anything. He is not generally abusive from no-where just if I tell him I am upset or have a problem with anything, he will go to nuclear abuse within seconds.
My difficulty is that he is only like this with me. Everyone else thinks he is great and he is good with kids, it's just me. If he was abusive surely he would be like it with everyone. Had enough really I think.
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Does your H/P not make any effort on your special days.
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Notfabatforty · 12/02/2011 16:41
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