This is long - sorry - but the wisdom of mumsnet is much-needed.
DH and I have been together for many years and are lucky enough now to have 2 DC (both under 5). I suffered with PND after DC2, but am feeling much happier these days and am putting a lot of effort into maintaining this.
The last few years have definitely taken their toll on our relationship / marriage though - partly strain of young babies, me being miserable, not paying each other enough attention etc... Am trying hard to make sure we do pay each other more attention (get a babysitter every few weeks).
But a big big part of the ongoing problem for me is that our sex life is non-existent. DH suffered from impotence when we were TTC DC2. Since we had DC2 (over a year ago), we haven't had sex AT ALL. I've made advances (!) but DH is still having problems with impotence and he seems to have no sex drive at all.
I'm trying to get him to go to get help from the doctor about this (and I'm sure there are wider issues) but he seems really reluctant to do this. I'm getting increasingly hurt by this - I really miss having a sex life and I feel like there must be something wrong with me - that my DH no longer finds me desirable. After having 2 babies, my body has changed of course, and I want to know that I am still sexy and not just there for washing pants, changing nappies and so on.
So WWYD? All advice would be welcome (this is my first post - be gentle, be wise).
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morecheese · 09/02/2011 09:49
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