I have attempted on multiple occasions to talk to my husband about how miserable our relationship is making me (and seems to be making him) but every time he either changes the subject or tries to make excuses for his behavior. I feel like he is a mean roommate more than a husband...we have only been married for two years and we fight at least twice a week..over basically nothing. We have no love life and we barely speak. If I try to hug him or kiss him he pushes me away and he rarely does anything but play video games and go to work. I work as well, so when I am home I try to make the most of what little time we have together. Over Christmas, I felt we had made a breakthrough..we both admitted we had been considering a divorce and we were able to explain what was bothering us. I felt like that was a bright spot, and an indicator that things were going to change, but it has only gotten worse. I feel like I am running out of steam. He argued with me tonight and told me I wasn't intelligent enough to do my job, and that I was "making a joke out of it." That really hurt me and I told him as much and he proceeded to rip into me and bully me like he normally does and I finally just told him I didn't want to be with him anymore. He didn't say anything and just went into the other room and went to sleep and I have no idea what to do. I have been considering leaving him for nearly 9 months and I wake up in a cold sweat considering having a child with this man. He has control over ALL of our money and he has isolated me from all of my friends and my family lives 10 hours away. He listens into all of my phone conversations, so I can't discuss this with anyone. I feel like I am drowning and I have no idea how to begin leaving him.
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I Want to Leave My Husband But Don't Know if I'm Strong Enough
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01marysamson · 09/02/2011 02:21
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