because it would seem I am not very popular at all. But I need help and advice. There've been a few incidents that just make me think I must be a nasty piece of work. I just feel miserable about it.
I've got three sils. None of whom really talk to me, one of whom has been actively rude to me. When I say they don't really talk to me, I mean if I call up to speak to one of my brothers, they'll just give me the standard, "Yep, fine thanks. Want to to talk to XXX? Bye." This is itself is fine, I guess. I mean, not everybody can like you but it's a bit hurtful.
The one who is rude to me has always been snippy but I just thought she was stressed. But at her wedding, she actively blanked me throughout. Not that I was expecting attention on someone else's wedding day but a "Hello, nice to see you," would have been nice. But she actively turned away every time I approached her to give congratulations.
It was then that I realised (I must be thick skinned!) that she really doesn't like me. I felt very low about this as I'd always done my best to be friendly, hospitable, generous etc. Her Facebook page is set to allow me and dh to only see her name, work place etc. Why she wanted to be FB friends, I've no idea.
I wish I had the balls just to delete her as a friend on FB because she's not a friend and then tell her that I don't like her, I think she's rude etc but I think this would just cause unnecessary ructions in the family. But why do I care? Our family isn't exactly close so why would I care? I think I need to grow a pair.
Anyway, so that's one area that I'm down about.
Another friend has totally deleted me from her contacts and FB because I told her she shouldn't lecture me about a relationship that is suffocating and has had a strongly negative effect on my marriage. Obviously, it's my mil. But I couldn't believe my friend has had such a strong response to my telling her she doesn't know what she's talking about.
I sound teenage talking about messaging and FB - I'm 30. But the fact is that these tools are great for brief contact, updating photos etc but they're also really powerful in terms of passively-aggressively hurting people.
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Obviously need to take a long hard look at myself
TabithaSilver · 03/02/2011 21:47
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