Hi Folks,
First post here in this board because I'm really kind of stuck.
DH and I have been married 10 years, and met when I was 19. Lived together a good couple of years before getting married. We now have two DS, 4 & 2.
I guess at the moment I'm not even sure I love DH. He doesn't really talk to me, he doesn't seem to listen to what I say and he doesn't care about what I do in the house or with my job. He spends more time on facebook than he does with me.
The xmas presents I gave him were opened and the set aside and are now in a bag ready to go up into his office. They have been untouched since boxing day.
We haven't had sex in several months and then it was once a year after the birth of DS2. We have been busy and been through a lot over the past year. DH's job has been up and down since last spring and we have been renovating a house (now complete). DH has also sadly suddenly lost his dad at the start of december so is obviously all over the place.
I'm trying to support him the best I can and be there for him, but am also working full time and almost singlehandedly running the house and looking after the kids. DH doesn't really help.
To be honest I'm really finding it hard to care and frankly think my life would be easier without DH.
I then feel guilty for even thinking these things. Here's an example. I have been thinking of doing condensed hours which would give me more time with the kids and alos protect us financially if his company lays them off again. I discussed this with him and I thought we had come to an agreement that he would help with the kids on his day off (today) and get DS1 ready for school and DS2 dressed so I could go to work.
He was late out of bed and seemed to have completely forgotten the conversation. When it came to 8:30 and he was still doing nothing and DS1 was still lacking uniform I reminded him and DH then got quite stroppy with me and began fighting with DS1 and dressing him quite agressively. Big argument on the step with DH claiming he didn't want DS1 to 'win' and that DS1 was smirking at him.
All of course in front of my MIL who is staying the weekend.
gah.
Any suggestions?
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DingbatsFur · 14/01/2011 12:46
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