Hmmmm. Paranoia.

[doodledoogle]

For the first time, I think I am actually paranoid about my relationship, probably unecessarily.

But anyway. Last night DH, asked for a cuddle and I whiffed aftershave on him. What's unusual about that I hear you ask?

He never wears it, ever. He is clean and hygenic don't get me wrong, but he's not into afterhave, hair gel and men smellies, just basic shower gel and deoderant kind of man.

I bought him some for Christmas, a really nice bottle as we have some big do's coming up and thought it would be nice for him to have a decent bottle, that he may wear for these do's.

Apart from a brief tester on the 25th he hasn't worn it again. So why yesterday to go to work on a normal day. He also wore his best new clothes to work yesterday

I asked him about the scent and he looked a bit taken aback but I can't put my finger on it, hence why I think I am suddenly paraoid, something does not feel right.

When I thought about it this morning, he also bought himself a smellies gift set from boots after Christmas and appears to be having more baths than ususal.

Last night he was going to have a bath but it got too late, we have a young DC and didn't want to wake him. He said he wore the aftershave for me, what at work all day and he was gong to have a bath before bed, until I asked him not to?

Flame away and tell me I am nuts over aftershave as I feel it, it sounds it reading that back, it's just something does not feel right, I can't explain.

I am just looking for, well I don't know really a virtual slap or thoughts.

[tammybear]

Could it be that he had a meeting or something yesterday which meant he had to wear his best clothes and aftershave? Or he wore it because he thought he hasn't since you brought it him and he felt guilty?

As for baths, I'm not a bath person, as I can't sit still for too long lol. But the past week I've had 3 baths because I've been really stressed and needed to relax, and have also discovered the wonders of Lush!

[madonnawhore]

Maybe he's on a 'new year, new him' makeover kick?

[Firepile]

Doodledangle, I hope that you are just being paranoid. But my experience was that my sobconscious knew that my H was being unfaithful long beforte the truth finally came out.

If I were you, I would hope for the best, but would take your feelings of disquiet seriously.

[doodledoogle]

No, nothing spectacular at work yesterday, just a run of the mill, usual day.

Maybe new year, new him. Probably is. Just strange in all the years we have been together, it's just so out of character but probably right.

Thanks!

[doodledoogle]

I will fire. This is not like me at all. Just something was not right, can't explain.

But I'll sit on it for now.

[Sarsaparilllla]

Maybe as you'd bought him the aftershave as a gift for Christmas he's taken the hint, hence wearing it and making more of an effort?

[puffling]

probably innocent bit I'd be extra aware for a while without letting him know your thoughts. if he's up to mischief, he'll do something that catches him out eventually.

[Malificence]

If you've been together forever and know one another inside out, you are unlikely to be paranoid, if something feels wrong, it usually is.
I agree with keeping a silent watch, for now, with a bit of digging around.
Don't listen to people telling you that you're being ridiculous/paranoid, people who don't get it are either not very intuitive or have never had any experience with those feelings.

[madonnawhore]

I've given him the benefit of the doubt because to convict on the evidence in front of us feels unfair. However I agree with the other posters who have said that you can't ignore your intuition. Listen to your gut and keep an eye on the situation.

If you feel like something's not right, it probably isn't.

[domeafavour]

Maybe he went for an interview?

I don't think it's enough to be suspicious TBH