Hello, my DP and I have split up (so name changed) but he is still living here with no intentions of moving on it seems. We have two DCS which he loves very much and refuses to leave but he treats me like utter crap often swearing and calling me names in front of the DCS and shouting and banging doors.He has also been very controlling and jealous and it took a long time for me to see this. Since I initiated the split before Christmas he has pretty much been ignoring the whole thing and I am pretty scared about bringing it up as it always leads to confrontation and more verbal assault.
I am feeling very anxious the more he ignores it. He is being "nice" and making me tea all the time even asking today did I want anything (ie.tea,snack)
My problem is that it is his birthday tomorrow new years eve and I feel obliged to celebrate it on account of the DCS. It is also new years eve so we have been invited to two parties neither of which I can go to because I feel (guilty) I can't leave him alone on his birthday/NYE with the DCs to go party myself and also if I do decide we should all go I worry that it will 1.be really awkward especially at midnight and 2.what if he kicks off on one.
What if he kicks off on one here at home because he tries it on at nye and i reject him again. I just wish it was all over and done with my head is such a mess.
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Whyislfesohard · 30/12/2010 21:11
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