need help

[kieranic]

i really need to know how to stop myself blubbering i have recently been seperated after an affair and finding this time tough my anniversary is on wed and xmas sat and its killing me that he will be spending both with ow dont get me wrong i dont want him back just need some help to get through this difficult week

[beingsetup]

all the best glass of wine your favourite songs and go out as much as youv can with people you like. There are other things in life you can enjoy.

I hope it goes ok for you

[kieranic]

thanks being set up i know if i can just get through this next couple of weeks i will make it but its just so hard

[ohdearyme11]

I'm so sorry to hear you are so down.

Have no wise words, just didn't want your post to go unsnaswered.

Have been there myself and it's shit.

[kieranic]

thanks ohdearyme i really thought i was getting better but just lost it today for no reason

[beingsetup]

[hug] emoticon just dream about next year when you will be cosied up with your new man!

Dreaming costs nothing......

So what would your ideal man look like then?

[beingsetup]

OO and write a list of all the annoying things he ever did, all the things that are great about being alone, and all the qualities you would like in your new relationship.

Oh and the lone parents thread is great too! Reasons to be a cheerful is a great thread and will definitely cheer you up!

[kieranic]

being set up - my new man - it doesnt really matter what he looks like as long as hes loyal and honest but a stunner to rub dh nose in it would be good

already doing lists in my head so thanks feeling a little better

[googoomama]

this thread has helped me a lot :)

[kieranic]

just read some of the thread and its amazing the amount of mums in the same boat its already making me feel better thanks guys

[MyBrilliantCareer]

Can you plan some especially nice things for those two days? Maybe buy some little (inexpensive) gifts for yourself (my friend does this for her birthday - wraps them up and everything!), have lunch/meet up with a friend etc. I'm completely skint but I'm doing little treats like having a little bit of my favourite foods every day, bought some second hand DVDs from Amazon etc to watch over the tough Xmas period.

Maybe also spend some time looking to the new year and planning the great things you are going to do and be!!

[kieranic]

hi my brilliant career i have actually cancelled my holiday from work so that i can focus on work instead of wallowing and at night i was thinking of doing something with the kids.

spoke to my friends about it yesaterday and i if i feel any emotion i have to get myself down to their house and they will look after me.

[MyBrilliantCareer]

Good idea - work is a great distraction sometimes.

But I still say give yourself some little treats that make you feel special but doesn't take time away from the kids, even if it's a really nice shower gel or body oil or a new lipstick or some lovely cheese or clean sheets or download a new favourite song from itunes or oh no I think I'm projecting my own desires here

Sounds like you have great friends.