H at his worst

[domeafavour]

I am just open mouthed at this mornings behaviour. Was woken up to "f"in c@unt, there's no f"in hot water,rant rant. Shouting, swearing. I asked him to lower his voice to not wake up ds, "I dontgive a fuck, I just want some hot water c@unt.
He has to have a chat with his big boss this morning, so he's stressed, but that is just ridiculous. It's actually about a promotion
Then, I've got no f"in cufflinks up here, er no, because you take them off downstairs every day and leave them there. Then mumbled something about this f"in country.

I'm going to try and see if I can find a solicitor around work and see if I can go in lunchtime. Was waiting til the new year, but I can't do this.

[merrycompo]

Is he always like this
it was 6am , he's stressed with work and it's Monday morning blues
is it worth divorcing over?

[domeafavour]

Yeah if it was a one off, but it's all the time and not getting any better.

[Lorelei57]

The first time a man called me a c... would be enough. I would never see him again. How long has he been like this?

[AnyFuckerForAMincePie]

he addressed you as a cunt ?

you know I have seen your previous threads, but this man is horrible

any person that ever called me a cunt would be persona non grata

stop washing his clothes, stop remembering where his fucking cuff links are and stop being his wife.

from today

[domeafavour]

He does say that word a lot, and the context could have been misconstrued, but I said don't call me that, and he repeated the sentence without the word. So yes I would say it was aimed at me.

He apologised, but it was "I'm sorry, but I'm just really stressed and can do without it this morning"

Thanks

another thing is looks like he might be offered a role in Sydney, which is what he wants. I told him a while ago I wouldn't be prepared to move while our relationship was so bad, so he knows that but now I really think I need to talk to someone about the complications of that.

Best scenario, he fucks off and we stay here.

[AnyFuckerForAMincePie]

so start finding out where that leaves you financially and get planning

[marantha]

domeafavour If the c-word was just addressed to thin air, it wouldn't be so bad, perhaps he could try some cooling-down techniques, which might (only might) help, but as it was addressed to YOU, it is wholly unacceptable and I think you seriously need to consider whether or not you wish to stay with him.

[LittleMissHoHoHoFit]

Didn't put 2 and 2 together on the other thread about him bragging to your pg friend about his input before, knew I knew your name, but couldn't recall exactly what. So sorry you are going through such a hard time at the moment.

This is Mr Ff off to Oz for a weekend isn't it?

Mr Big Shot in the City. Mr I do everything with the DC...

We thought this was discussed and sorted out.

Clearly it's not.

You know he has no right to talk to you like that. He knows that his not acceptable. That you do a lot for him and for him to rant on like this is just beyond the pale.

At the risk of sounding like his mother you need to sit him down and read him the riot act.

One that he never, EVER and you mean EVER talks to you like that, or he'll be outside the house with your slipper up his arse so fast his head will spin.

Remind him that you do this, that and the other to help him and would expect him to be able to handle the rest.

Tell him you are not his mother, but that if he sorted out what he needed the night before it'd make his life a million times better and you would not have to wake up with the disgusting treatment you did this morning.

Spell it out to him that this is the very last time that this happens, or, seriously, he is gone.

The more we learn of him, the more I'm inclined to think that actually, you would be an awful lot better off without him than you are with him...

[Ormirian]

Wow!



Am speechless.

[thatsnotmymonkey]

I would be slinging his shit out of the window and telling him to cunt off in no uncertain terms.

You deserve better.

[PressureDrop]

Absolutely vile. He called you - his wife, mother of his kids - a cunt?

I am not the shockable type, but that is appalling. Really, truly revolting.

Don't put up with this. He is trash. Utter trash.

[NotWoozy]

If anyone called me a cunt I would probably kill them never speak to them again. If my DH called me that, he wouldn't get a chance to do it a second time. It is in my opinion the very worst degrading word anyone can call a woman.

[NotWoozy]

can't do strikethroughs on words, sorry

[LittleMissHoHoHoFit]

NotWoozy, you have to do the -- on each side of the word.

so kill him

Remove the spaces between the and the word and you get kill him--

[domeafavour]

Thanks all
yes, well remembered littlemiss!!
Didn't get sorted because I was holding out for our family holiday in the hope that it would destress him. No such luck. I was honestly think that was our last chance. but it was a bit of a disaster. There is no hope.
Feeling very miserable right now, very teary. I'm not sad about the end of my marriage, I'm just miserable. I don't want to talk to him at all. He just brings me down. He whinges about everything, and goes on and in about work, and now this promotion/ move is in the cards!
I was thinking I could get through this week cos we are both busy and shouldn't see that much of each other.

I'm off to go look up solicitors, I don't really know where to start. I fid talk to one before, one recommended on here, but it seemed extortionate.
Does anyone know average rates?!
In London.

Thanks

[LittleMissHoHoHoFit]

So sorry to hear you are so down. He just sounds so awful.

Mine is shite but at least he doesn't pretend he does anything where DS is concerned... miserable bugger otherwise though. I hate it, it's so depressing.

[Rhinestone]

Well, he's a fucking cunt isn't he. Seriously, this is verbal abuse which will only get worse.

[Katisha]

You may be able to get a free first consultation. Ring a few and ask.

I would def talk to a solicitor and find out what's what - it'll put it all on a firmer footing in your mind, rather than a vagueish fantasy of leaving or waiting for him to leave.

[NotWoozy]

Thank you LittleMiss

[domeafavour]

His friend is coming to stay at the weekend, I'm going to suggest he helps him find a flat to rent.
One week before Xmas, what great timing.
I never want to see his face again.

[GypsyMoth]

whilst they are flat hunting maybe you could start his packing,keep the momentum going...he sounds disgusting.

[domeafavour]

Yep, I reckon!

[RambleOn]

If you def intend to see a sol though, do it now. It's their busiest time of the year in Jan, as everyone waits til xmas is over.

Good luck, he sounds grim.

[domeafavour]

Thankyou rambleon, good tip

[domeafavour]

I can't even bring myself to talk about the latest turn of events.
This man is a liar and a cheat and I need him out of my life and my sons. He has fucked this up. I was feeling a bit sensitive to the fact that I would be turning his life upside down. Now I don't care. He has brought it all on himself. What a stupid stupid man.