I've just met someone who I know probably isn't long-term relationship material. He has too many issues - an emotionally abusive childhood which he mentions frequently, he seems insecure about a lot of things and has admitted he finds it very hard to trust people.
I like him a lot though and I don't want to fix him. We have a great deal in common and he seems decent enough and with solid values. I'm divorced and old enough to know there are no happy endings. I'm not looking to re-marry or share my life with anyone (although I don't completely rule these things out), rather I'd like to find a companion/friend who I can slowly get to know and spend quality time with (that includes sex but I don't want to rush it). He thinks I'm pretty special and I know he's looking for something long-term. I know too that he senses correctly that I have reservations about him. I'd like to continue seeing him and just let things develop if they're meant to. I'm concerned though that this might be unfair on him and I really don't want to hurt him.
Should I be absolutely clear with him about how I feel?
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is it sensible to date a man with "issues"
Lorelei57 · 12/12/2010 20:02
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