Basically 25 years old, 2 kids, not with their mother any more.
Cannot seem to keep a job for more than 3 months, partly because his chosen specialism is construction so he earns good money for a short while but then the work dries up. He hasn't worked since September.
It's always through agencies. No future at all, just hand to mouth.
So he lives between my mothers and his fathers and whoever the latest girlfriend is.
We are a good 250 miles away so he doesn't want to live with us, but we have had him for 6 months during which time we paid for various exams to do his job, HSE etc, took him to get paperwork done so he got access to his kids.
Nothing ever gets seen through to completion, the children being a perfect example, he needed the ex girlfriends signature on a form, so when they were getting on he didn't bother, now they aren't getting along he has no rights at all and if she's in a bad mood he doesn't get access.
Then there's the support, when he does have money rather than pay her, he'll take the kids up town and blow £100 on toys and clothes, so the kids are ruined but their mother doesn't have the money for electric. It winds me up something rotten.
She now has moved on, is engaged, I am delighted for her, he gets moody and upset but can't see that it is good for the children to have a happy mother.
Anyway today there's another blow up between him and my mum, who phones me in tears. I have very little sympathy with her because you do reap what you sow and she was too busy at college, having her own social life when he was a teenager and now this is the result. Equally he is very difficult to guide, god knows we've tried and he knows better than anyone else, except of course he doesn't.
So the latest is that he is getting kicked out after Christmas and will be homeless.
I don't have room but of course will make room, but DH doesn't think the right thing to do is bail him out again.
If he was easy to live with and worked then mum would have him at hers.
Am just at a lost to know what the right thing to do is. I feel I could easily have ended up in his shoes had I not married DH.
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mamatomany · 11/12/2010 20:14
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