ds12 has said that he doesn't want to visit his father this new year as we have relatives visiting from abroad and he wants to spend time with some cousins.
His father has stated on several occasions that if ds doesn't want to visit he doesn't have to. He sees him during school holidays because ExP moved 200 miles away. ds never misses a visit.
ExP has basically gone into emotional blackmail mode and is becoming quite unpleasant on the phone. He is a bullying, controlling person and ds is afraid of him.
There is another reason why ds can't visit at new year and it's a safety reason about a condition that he has that his father isn't looking after properly. I need to see the paediatrician before he next visits and I don't have an appointment until mid January.
ds definitely doesn't want to visit and I'm not comfortable with him visiting until I've seen the paed.
This is a very difficult position for us to be in. How can I get ds to stand up to him? He has the right to express some preferences regarding contact and he has the right not to have his health put at risk.
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ExP emotionally blackmailing ds
narcissistssuck · 08/12/2010 12:46
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