I am interested to hear other people's views. MIL is in her late 70's (my partner and I late 30's with a one year old baby) and she seems to be competing with everyone about everything! Eg, when she knew my parents, who are quite a bit younger than her, have looked after our daughter for an hour or two while OH and I went Christmas shopping, she starts to say that she will also look after our daughter when she is a bit older and knows her better! (I just smiled and said that was very kind of her to offer, and we both make all sorts of excuses- I think she may have signs elderly forgetfulness, and also is not to be trusted to look after our daughter as I ask. I am saying this due to much previuous conflict when we first had our daughter, as to her role as grandmother. I dont have this problem with my parents, by the way.) MIL also started to justify what she was saying by saying there are two of my parents so that they find it easier (she is in denial!)absolute nonsense. It all really annoys me, and to make it more interesting, my mother in law went back to work after having her children (OH was looked after by his grandmother when he was little). It also makes me stresse out when MIL keeps chanting "you'll be walking soon" to my baby daughter, who is only just managng to stand up! This has been the case for nearly two months and I told her that she is not ready to walk, but MIL keeps trying to make her by holding her arms up and almost kicking her ankles! I have lots of experience taking care of young children in my career, and now that I have my own bonnie baby, I would like to do it my way! Anyone else having a similar problem? And, yes, MIl has also gone through the phase of chanting "my baby, my baby"- i was interested to read that other parents have also had this, and I think that it is not thier place to say that and I think it is extremely selfish and incosiderate, especially the baby's mother. I snapped at my MIL a year ago when she sat there and said that about our beautiful daughter, who was three days old. She didnt seem to see what the problem was, but it felt to me as though she had been sitting at home waiting for "her prize" (she lives in the same town as us)Just what you need when you have had quite a gruelling labour and are absolutely bushwhacked!
I feel better now I have vented off!
what do you think, if you have had any similar thoughts?
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thomasinaticklemouse · 07/12/2010 13:58
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