It makes both of us so miserable.. He feels very trapped by his job though as he can't find anything that would earn him similar money, and we've got a fair bit of debt to pay off.
Thing is, I could cope with it (and so could he) if it was just a short term thing. It started when the third member of his team left, so the work of 3 had to be shared between 2 of them. This was meant to be temporary, but then the recesion hit and that person was never replaced. The company was bought out, relocated to London and the workload increased further.
It's always 'once this project's done, things should be easier' but its bollocks and more and more things are getting heaped on him and his colleague.
He wasn't dull before this, at all. It was great when he was close to home, he was generally home by 5:30pm, we had plenty of time in the evenings as a family etc. Most of all he was doing sensible hours so wasn't stressed unless it was a particularly difficult time at work, was all fine.
He's changed though.. stressed and miserable all the time, and he just doesn't seem to be able to leave his work behind.
When I have friends over, or my Sister, he comes out of his shell and sort of goes back to how he was before - funny, lively etc. It's refreshing to see that this person is still in there somewhere, but in a way it almost makes it worse because as the weekend/evening is over he just reverts back to sad old grump. :(
Another thing that's changed recently is that we've stopped eating together. I just couldn't do it anymore as we'd end up eating after 9pm every night, so now I eat with DS and DP gets himself something when he gets in . He's not bothered about food though, so that's not an issue for him - but it's even less time spent together IYSWIM.
Really been feeling like everything is down to me lately, and yet another bone of contention. Not the housework - that's split fairly well considering.. it's the responsibiliy for the running of the house, organising everything, and most of all I make all the decisions where DS is concerned because DP doesn't see him unless it's the weekend.