Sorry, a bit of a long story; my DP and I have a four month old son, who we both love very much. Before DS was born, DP took on several fairly major work commitments, one of which I suggested might wait until DS was a bit older as it would be quite stressful. DP works from home, and we only have a 1-bed, so since DS's birth I've done as much as I can to give DP quiet time at home.
He's doing a PhD and most weeks is away from home at least one night a week, which is ok, but recently he's either been busy or away for the last fortnight, because of this event he's organised. Yesterday I went along with DS and there were a few problems, so DP was very stressed. He texted me later to say he had been smoking (he stopped when DS was born), and I texted him back to say I understood. But when DS woke me at 4 am I realised DP hadn't come home, nor were there any messages from him. I've tried to call him twice this morning and he's not answering.
Since DS was born I've sometimes really struggled with my new role as mother - I used to be a very social person and though I go out a lot during the day I miss meeting friends in the evenings, going to the cinema etc. DP knows this and has been promising that once this busy period is over (he's away again next week from Tuesday til Saturday at a conference) he'll give me a break.
I am SO ANGRY with him right now. All he had to do was text to say that he was at the party and had missed the last train.
We are supposed to be moving next year to be nearer his university and I'm seriously questioning whether I still want to move (I'd be giving up work to move) and whether I still even want to be with someone so thoughtless and selfish. Does anyone have any words of wisdom?
Thanks for reading this far!
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just need to talk to someone, really
Gherkinsmummy · 28/11/2010 10:18
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