Can't seem to have an orgasm these days. I need a long build-up and then I get stressed about how long I'm taking and of course that puts me right out of 'the zone'. Plus he doesn't really know what he's doing :( DH and I are each other's only partners so neither of us are very experienced here. I try and tell him how to do things but I don't want him to feel like he can't do anything right, bless him, and don't want to sound like I'm constantly criticizing. Also we both seem to be very shy in talking about sex - this isn't healthy and I would like to discuss things with him but how do you go from 13 years of not discussing it to suddenly saying "darling, here's what I'd like you to do" overnight?! I try but I find it embarrassing! We had a loooooong period of celibacy (no libido due to exhaustion from kids) but I feel like we are just starting to get our groove back a bit. But it's not good yet (I don't climax and I don't get anything from penetration). Anyway, the other night I faked an orgasm and feel terrible about it. I'm not sure why I did - I felt bad that I was taking too long and didn't want him to be disheartened, I guess. Now, of course that was a stupid thing to do and had I thought about it I would never have done it, as obviously it doesn't solve the problem. So, my question is - what do I do now?! I don't want to tell the poor man that I faked it but is he going to be expecting it to be that quick every time?! I keep telling him that I need him to slow down but surely he will he think "well you managed without being slow last time, so what's wrong this time?" If he thinks that I orgasmed from what he did last time then he's just going to think that what he did was fine - which it wasn't.
Heck, sorry that was so long.
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Faked orgasm... how do I rectify this?
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Nameynamechanger · 27/11/2010 08:59
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