I'm preparing for leaving DP - Need practical advice

[TempNickChange]

Quick background - I'm in an emotionally abusive relationship and am planning to move out straight after christmas.
I have saved up over £2k and have been buying furniture here and there and putting it into storage.
The one thing my kids will want when we move is a telly - I have a lot of making up to do to them so first thing I bought is a HD telly bit silly I know but I can afford it and it made me smile. That's in storage waiting for the move.
I have also bought my children a new set of drawers for their new bedroom and a few duvet covers, towels, plates sets etc.
Now the problem is, whilst the TV and little things are paid for, the drawers are on my argos card and not yet paid off. Now yesterday, Argos started a sale and the lovely pine bunk beds that I had in mind for their room have come down in price from £190 to £160. I wouldn't normally get them until the other item was paid off but do you think I should?? I have more money now than I will when I move so I guess it makes sense to get this stuff now and hopefully pay it off by the time I move - or am I going too OTT and buying this stuff prematurely?

[whenallelsefailsmaketea]

You are putting tha cart before the horse a bit! Although it probably helps you to visualise you and the DC in your new home together. And there isn't a rule book on how to do this. So if it helps to have a stash of everything you will need who are we to tell you otherwise. Although if you were forced to leave before you had everything you would all be fine. I just took a sofa a chair and a mattress when I left and it was still better than the luxurious but miserable house that I left.
But what are you waiting for? The atmosphere in your house must be very difficult and the prospect of Christmas with your DP must be looming over you. Does it really have to be you that goes? Your DC do have a right to a home.
Sensible people will be along soon and someone will definitely suggest Women's Aid for advice and support.
Good luck

[mumblechum]

Why aren't you taking your fair share of the furniture in your current home?

I'm a divorce lawyer and most people take half of the contents when they move out. Typically, if the mum and children are moving, they take all the children's furniture, duvets, toys etc, as well as half white goods, other furniture.

You really don't need to buy all this stuff again!

Do you have your rental place lined up, and have you paid the deposit & a few months rent in advance? That should be the priority imo.

[TheLifeOfRiley]

I left my emotionally abusive ex in November las year and took clothes, toys, a few towels and blankets, xmas tree from loft, and an airbed. Me and DS were fine, in fact, we were happy - I was walking round my empty tatty new home grinning like a loon!

I'm assuming your saved up cash is for a deposit and fees on a new place? As far as the argos card goes, do you have source of income when you move or will you be on basic benefits? If I were in your position and I was working I would get the beds, but if you're not I would wait and buy only when you have the cash.

You are doing really well in preparing, just keeping going with your plans and take care.

For what it's worth I didn't want to wait until after xmas (we had a great xmas just me and ds) but if it's what you think s best for your personal situation that's completely your decision. I was terribly worrried what people would think of me (I moved out while ex was at work without telling him) but everyone was really supportive after the shock had worn off and confirmed he had been treating me badly and that they understood.

[gettingeasier]

Wow you sound really organised but I agree why are you the one moving out ?

Assuming you have your reasons I too would go now and not wait. We knew xh was moving out this time last year but decided to keep quiet until after xmas for the dc sake.Well it all went horribly wrong and xmas was ruined anyway and in hindsight I wish we had just got on with it.

Goodluck with what ever you decide and dont spend money on beds take the ones you have when you leave !