Arghh....why is life so complicated! Sorry long. I've posted in lone parents as well as its a bit of both!!
So wise mumsnetters I need a bit of advice. Currently I'm a single parent to 2.5 yr old DS. Ex H and I split up within 8 weeks of DSs birth. Ex H sees DS one night every week and then every other weekend (Sat am - Sun pm). I have an ok relationship with Ex, its civil and we discuss DS.
Much to my surprise I met a lovely man online (it does work!) about a year ago. Things have been going well and we've recently been talking about moving in together, which we are both really excited about. DP finds the stepfather role pretty scarey (understandable!) but he and DS do get on well. This weekend we started talking about the future and DP said he wants to move away from the town we live in now. He's an outdoorsy type and has always wanted to live closer to the Peak District. I sort of knew this but didn't realise how much he wanted it. I'm worried now about DP moving in as I'd never really considered moving away and am not sure I'm in position to move anyway. Obviously I don't want DP to move in then move out again. We're doing lots of talking through things (maybe too much?!) but last night got a bit emotional and we didn't know what to do.
Its all quite theoretical, DP wanting to move to the Peaks isn't an immediate thing - we're not talking next week or anything, maybe in a year or so, maybe 2 years. But basically he doesn't see his future in the town we are in now.
So advice on a couple of things....does DP move in and we see how things go. Both of us realise things might change or do we need to resolve this now?
And...I feel incredibly guilty thinking about moving DS away from his father. Ex H lives about 10 mins away at the moment. I feel quite trapped, how have other people dealt with this? How do the logistics of being somwehere in the region of 1.5hrs away from Exh work for DS visits (I would be thinking every other weekend Fri - Sun and holiday time....DS not at school yet but when he goes half of school holidays)?
Any advice/ experiences would be appreciated.
Thanks.
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Moving in with new partner and then possibly moving away from Exh
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McCharlieMouse · 21/11/2010 13:20
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