I'm looking for ideas to pamper and thank my vvvDH who has just been fabulous over the last 3 years or so. He supported me fully when I gave a up a well-paid job to train as a teacher and then almost carried me through that god-awful course, even to the point of making teaching resources when I was on teaching practice. In spite of his massive support I still ended up severely depressed last year which resulted in me staying in bed for about two months. In that time he did everything for me, never complained, and it is thanks to him that I got better and am now even better than I've ever been. Life has improved hugely for us since then. We moved when he got a great job that he loves and I stayed off for about 6 months while I fully got back on my feet (with absolutely no complaint from him, or pressure to look for a job).
I started working in March and shortly after I discovered I was pregnant. Our baby is due on Christmas Day. Basically for the past year and a half, between me being ill and then pregnant my DH has lived the life that so many women find so draining - he's been working full time and taking care of pretty much everything in the house. It's not out of laziness that I've not taken responsibility for things, it's more that due to being so ill I have a very very limited capacity for stress, which through rest and the constant support of DH has steadily increased to the point where I'm almost back to normal on that front. Apart from the stress problems, I am happier than I've ever been.
He has done so many things to make my life easier and happier, from forcing himself to become a less picky eater (very successfully) to learning to drive, despite the fact that he is terrified of it and really doesn't want to. This morning a voucher came in the post for me to go on a mum-to-be spa day bought by him so I could have some "me" time before the baby arrives. Just one more caring and thoughtful thing in a huge mountain of caring and thoughtful things.
I am desperately trying to think of a way to show how much I appreciate him. He is totally unmaterialistic so buying him gadgets doesn't cut the mustard. I know if I asked him he would say "You're giving me a baby for Christmas, nothing could be better than that," so directly asking is no help. Please ladies, any ideas?
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Need ideas to thank a fab husband
WriterofDreams · 20/11/2010 11:06
Kitty thank you for the lovely wishes, you made me cry, you bad thing 
Of course a lonely fly in the kitchen can make me cry at the moment (hormonal)
My DH is very interested in gaming but I know very little about it so I would be afraid to buy anything. Hmmm maybe I could investigate with his best friend who's also into the same stuff...
I read your thread a few days ago, and have been thinking about it ever since.
Your DH sounds lovely.
I recently got my sainted DH Sky Sports. I don't know if you already have sky, but I signed up as a gift to my DDDDDH who works stupid hours, never goes out and gives his heart and soul to our family.
It was expensive for us, but sport is his other True Love. He was beyond happy. It meant more to him as I really, really didn't want Sky.
If he likes gaming how about one of those xbox kinect thingies?
A few years ago I rang my husband's boss and arranged for him to start work late on DH's birthday. When he was asleep I switched his alarm off and woke him up with a cooked breakfast. He still had to go to work (and finished an hour later to make up the time) but he was so pleased as it was such a surprise.
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