unhappy in marriage

[masuki]

Is this perfectly normal?

We have been married seven or so years, have two children, nice house etc etc etc.

But, it is not the love of my life, the life I dreamed of, and I feel like I am going thru the motions.

How can I refind intimacy with my partner, or have the courage to through the whole thing away, and either become a single parent or leave him with the children? The thought of these options simply break my heart.

Help.

[thatsnotmyfruitshoot]

You sound like you've hit the classic 7 year itch tbh. I would strongly recommend trying to reconnect with your DH before you consider anything else (speaking from experience!!) Some counselling may help, things don't need to be drastic before you go - I think actually people often leave it way too late before they consider Relate.

Try and spend some time together on your own, do the date night thing, or go away on a weekend if you have childcare.

[masuki]

Thankyou fruitshoot, thats a nice idea for a weekend away, need to consider asking parents / inlwaws to come help out. We barely have time to talk to each other, always so tired, racing around after children, only manage a date once or twice a year. I can hardly remember the guy I married TBH.

[thatsnotmyfruitshoot]

Do you still love him though? If you do, there's something to build on at least. I hope you can work things out, I don't think what you're experiencing is unusual - most couples I know have hit this kind of patch at some point.