DP and I have a turbulent relationship and we have had counselling in the past but it didn't work for us.
He proposed to me 18 months ago and then we hit another rocky patch and any tentative plans to get married were put on the backburner. We have both agreed previously that we wouldn't make any wedding plans until we were on an even keel.
For around six months we have been getting on loads better and avoiding conflict by being more considerate, not overreacting and not dragging minor arguments into the next day.
But on Friday we were due to go away for the weekend together and we had an argument about housework. During the argument he told that he didn't want to marry me anymore.
I told him that if after four years and a DD together that if he didn't want to marry me that I didn't know why we were still together and I went to the lovely hotel by myself.
He hasn't tried to retract what he said and I feel he means it. He has been through a messy divorce in the past and has always said he couldn't face that with me.
I didn't ask him to marry me, I haven't been nagging him to marry me and despite wearing a beautiful ring we barely discuss it.
Now I am left in a quandry where I have to decide whether it is enough to be with a man who says he loves me but doesn't want to marry me when previously he loved me enough to propose and plan our future life together.
I'm blue today.
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He proposed but now doesn't want to marry me
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reddaisy · 07/11/2010 12:11
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