Ok so a bit of background. From my POV things have been very strained for a long time in our marriage.
I have relocated due to DH career leaving friends/family behind, I also have not had a chance to have any time to do anything for myself, nothing, no evening courses, no social events, nothing I am losing myself and my only trips out of the house are school runs, I joke not.
I'm so resentful of him, he has this career, the qualifications, the trips away, I have nothing. My kids are not nothing but I don't know who I am anymore.
As a couple sex is mainly for his benefit, I enjoy it but he does not really do it for me, in that it's all very aimed at his pleasure and that's all.
We have never spent a night by ourselves since our wedding night, I kid not. Last time we went out as a couple was 13 months ago for a few hours, I joke not.
Ok childcare is hard for us but it's not impossible, he always makes excuses, he'd sit at home all night on the net, every day if he could.
Big birthday for me coming up, his job will get in the way and that's his doing, he has made no effort to arrange anything, he thinks if he takes me out for an hour that will suffice. I have arranged back up plans to do things instead so now he thinks he does not have to do anything.
I am the one being selfish here apparently, maybe I am, but he won't listen, I feel dead inside I don't have any social life outside the house and the one adult I have daily contact with, we don't do anything.
It's reached a point where I can't continue in this relationship as it stands, I have reached my breaking point.
Today I tried to talk to him and he trashed loads of his stuff, threw things around the bedroom, saying I'd be happy if he had nothing, he'd trash all his stuff as I have taken everything, his money etc, we also have a new baby which he pushed for, (I know).
I just don't know where to turn, my HV is a good start I think. I just can't live like it anymore, it's so draining emotionally and I am running on empty. Either the relationship changes drastically or I have to leave for my own sanity.
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manchildmum · 02/11/2010 12:48
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