Would be grateful for any messages of support/advice on how to deal with passive-aggressive behaviour.
Trying to keep it as short as possible, we've just had a disastrous week away in which husband was irascible and irritable, and shouting ++ at son (12). Spent my week tiptoeing round with the kids trying not to set him off, but eventually cracked and shouted at him to leave son alone, told him he was being cruel, then ran out of the room and burst into tears.
I don't do this sort of thing. The kids were frightened and traumatised. Now we are home and I have asked husband to sit down and have a talk with me about it, and he simply refused: "I have nothing to say". "I have", I replied, and he shrugged and walked out of the room.
He tends to be very passive-aggressive like this after an argument, and it usually lasts three days or so until one of us cracks: usually me, and I apologise even though I don't feel I'm at fault, and we kiss and make up, and I resent him a little but say nothing, and the underlying problem does not get addressed. This time I really think it's time to communicate better, and I don't know where to start.
And I am not going to allow him to continue bullying our son.
Advice, help, please....?
Thanks
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Alfreda · 29/10/2010 18:05
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