Sorry, I feel like all I do on here is moan at the moment, but I need to talk.
I just found out that DP has been cheating on me. I logged into his emails while he was out, not to snoop or go behind his back but it's his birthday soon and I'm trying to arrange a surprise party for him. I figured I'd pop into his address book and get his friends' email addresses that I don't have, and it would be a nice thing to do for him.
Anyway, his unread emails (which I didn't read, just saw at the top of the page) were from a girl we used to know. I used to be friends with her but she was incredibly spiteful and nasty to me over my break up with my previous boyfriend and we've gone our seperate ways. DP always commented how pretty she was and how she has the perfect figure etc etc, but I didn't think too much of it because we weren't even friends anymore. Almost immediately after we decided to stop being friends she started seeing my ex.
It didn't sit well with me that she and DP were emailing, I was very hurt actually, just because she and I fell out and he hadn't told me he was still in touch with her (they'd never been properly friends before, they met once), so I sent him a text saying, "I didn't know you were still emailing [her name], can we chat about it when you get home?"
He didn't reply, came back home and 'confessed' to having an affair with her.
I'm reeling. I never suspected that, I wasn't even angry he'd emailed her, just felt a bit hurt... I feel so betrayed and foolish. I didn't even suspect it. I trusted him... and he so readilly confessed! I wasn't going to confront him, just tell him how I felt. It's like he's not even ashamed of it. And I was trying to do something nice for him, which makes it doubly hurtful.
Would you leave? We don't live together, there are no DC, and frankly he's been getting on my nerves a little recently anyway.
BUT, I stuck with it because I do love him, and 'being a bit annoying' isn't the end of the world, you can't expect perfection all the time... but now this.
I just don't know what to do.
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DP has cheated on me
KittyTwoShoes · 15/10/2010 23:56
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