H & I are currently in the process of separating. There is a small chance it may be temporary but my gut tells me it will be permanent.
I have DD of 3.5 and DS of 21mths (I do feel very lucky despite miserable times!). I am going to do my utmost to keep friendly contact with H as the children obviously desperately need him. I'm not so worried about DS now (more about him growing up without man in the house later) but am very worried about DD.
She is very switched on and very close to her Dad. Luckily he hasn't seen much of them during the week for past few years so that won't be too much of a shock. She has made a few comments recently which tells me she is aware that things are not right (have not had any loud fights in last couple of months) but she has obviously picked up on our lack of lovingness to each other.
I feel like I need to tell her some version of the separation as her current insecurity (partly due to our relationship and partly due to not seeing him much) is not good for her. He leaves the house at 6.30 (without seeing her) and she hears the door closing and cries and cries for him. But I'd like to put it off for a little bit in case DH moves out (shortly) and in time miraculously changes his mind and wants to try again (in his own words, there is a slim chance of our relationship succeeding).
Is there a book that anyone knows of which could help me explain to a 3 yr old?
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Separation & minimising pain for small children
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SleeplessInLondon · 15/10/2010 07:57
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