We have been seperated for 20 months.
Divorce was started, but then for lots of reasons it didnt get very far.
Cant start it up again as there is no legal aid avaliable at the momment.
Anyway, he is still super bullying, agressive, controlling and horrible. The marriage was full of his constant affairs, emotional and occassional physical abuse.
He will go along being all quiet and friendly and helpful for a short while and then blow up in my face.
I automatically take the role i took in our marriage, which is to panic and then try and sort it out, what ever the cost is to me.
Or i try and rebuff for a few days, telling him i will not discus it, or i will not talk to him while he is being like that, but eventually i get dragged in.
Couple of days later i realise what i have done and that he has won again.
He also cronically lies. I know he always lies, about everything. But why do i automatically belive him, and not question it until some hours later? normally once he has fed me the lies and shouted at me?
Firstly - how on earth do i stop this happening.
Secondly, - im about to do something which i know is going to make him seriously kick off at me. How to i protect myself from the inevetiable?
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