Could counselling / therapy help my husband?

[foldinghairbrush]

What is the difference between counselling and therapy?

My husband and I are having problems.

My husband has issues regarding sex, all of which stem from his self esteem, his poor body image, stress, and a horribly stressful time in his teens which has never been adressed, particularly not by his family who are very 'stiff upper lip'.

He thought he was fine and over it, but now in his 40s it is all coming out and really having a devastating effect on our relationship.

He has suggested couples counselling. I have agreed to this, but also wonder if he needs space to himself to sort some things out. Maybe even before we try couple's counselling.

Shall I suggest this to him? Anyone with experience?

[newnamethistime]

I would suggest individual therapy for him. This is really his problem to deal with and he needs time and space to do so.
Of course it affects you as a couple, but ultimately he needs to deal with his issues first.
If you are having a very difficult time dealing with things, I would recommend individual therapy for yourself too.
My H and I had horrendous problems - principally his issues with his upbringing. Both of us are having our own therapy and it has had enormous benefits for us (individually and as a couple).
These things can take time - we are a year down the line (weekly for both of us) and though expensive, it is very worthwhile.