I'm a regular but have namechanged for this. Sorry if this is a bit jumbled but my heads all over the place atm, I could really do with some advice.
Dh and I have been married for 6 years and we have a 3yo ds. Hes a fantastic father and loving husband, we have always been really close and totally happy together.
About 18 months ago a debt collector turned up on the doorstep saying dh owed money on a credit card, dh swore blind he didn't and it was a mistake. He said he'd called and sorted it out and I believed him. Money has always been tight so I've been working out a monthly budget for us for the last few years. A few times I suspected he was lying to me but hes always denied it and it just gets brushed under the carpet. About 3 months ago I found a solicitors letter over a gas bill he swore blind he'd paid, we had a massive row over it and he eventually admitted he hadn't paid it and lied because he didn't want to worry me. After that we had a really open discussion and I told him how hurt I felt that he'd lied and he was truly sorry. To me a marriage is all about honesty and communication and dh knows that. I told him that there could be no more lies because if I can't trust him I'd rather just leave. Things have been great between us since then.
Today a letter arrived for dh, he opened it in front of me and went to put it in the drawer but his body language was weird so I asked what it was. He said it was from work but I knew he was lying so I took it from him and it was from a debt collector. I haven't been able to look at him since, he keeps apologising but I'm livid. We've been tiptoeing round each other all night, I just don't know what to say to him and I don't want to hear another word of his lies! Is this a stupid reason to end a happy marriage? It seems like such a stupid thing but it shows total disrespect and I don't want to bring ds up in a home with parents who don't trust each other
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Dh lying again
Namechangingwuss · 30/09/2010 22:57
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