Hello
This is going to seem really trivial in the face of everything else on here..but none the less it's something I seem completely unable to deal with myself at the moment, or ever infact. I guess I am just looking for tactics or maybe a stern voice to tell me what to do..
Basically, I met a bloke on a night out about 3 months ago, a friend of a friend. Didnt fancy him AT ALL, and barely spent any time even talking to him. However, he took me by surprise by asking for my number at the end of night and I ended up giving it to him because I felt a bit cornered.
I decided there and then I would not respond to him as I knew I didnt fancy him, so what was the point. He texted a few times and I was very good and just left it, thinking that was the best thing to do.
(you know what's coming)
Anyway, he ended up texting directly asking me if I wanted to go out for dinner. I was out, happily glugging back glasses of wine, and thought 'oh why not, it's only a date and he might be really nice etc etc' so we arranged to see each other upon my return from holiday about 3 weeks later.
On holiday, he texted a bit, and, probably feeling safe because I was on an island in the middle of the med, ended up texting back quite flirtily, until the texts got, shall we say, positively filthy. Which was kinda exciting, however, I also got quite worried because I knew I hadn't fancied him etc etc. and I knew I was giving him the wrong idea.
Got home, and went on date. Totally still didnt fancy him. Got roaringly drunk together and ended up in bed. Can't remember ANY of it, just waking up in the morning and going OMG, what have I done...
Well, this is where it gets confusing...we ended up seeing each other for most of the weekend. Which I kind of liked and didnt like at the same time. I told him I wasnt really looking for a relationship at the moment, and that I was seeing (although not shagging) other men. He seemed fine with this and we kind of tentatively agreed that we would see each other on a casual basis.
The problem is now, I actually cant get him out of my head. I have this enormous emotional pull towards him which is taking over. But rationally I know it is ridiculous. And what's making it even worse is I hardly hear from him at all now (oldest story ever huh?). I tell myself I will not contact him, and then I get all panicky inside, and so i and text him and then wish I hadnt. I dont seem to be able to hold back enough to let myself move on, and it is wrecking my head. I think it might be related to the fact I slept with him, so feels like it should mean more than it does, and I suppose it's horrible that it obviously doesnt to him.... but the thing which really gets me is I still dont fancy him! I just feel really really needy!
What's that about? Any ideas?
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rather trivial angst over new man
kallima · 29/09/2010 16:24
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