Dh has been under an incredible amount of stress at work for the last year and our relationship has suffered badly as a consequence, as has his mental health. On Thursday he had a major breakdown at work and was sent to the doctor, he was referred to the mental health team who saw him on Friday and prompty put him on medication and signed him off work. Yesterday I got back from a children's birthday party to find a note saying he had gone to stay with his parents to get his head together.
I think this is a good idea, but I have had to explain to the children that he has gone away for a while, and he hasn't made contact with them since. I'm trying to keep smiley and normal for them, but I was very upset when he told me on the phone that as he drove away, the only person he was sad about leaving was dd2 Basically dd1 is not his biological dd, but he has been her dad since she was 9 months old.
Dh has just rung, and he has asked for dd2 (3) to go and stay with him at his parents He said she calms him down and makes him smile, and she is the only thing that makes him happy. He said dd1 (5) is too loud and demanding.
I feel my heart is breaking for dd1 who loves him so much. I'm also scared to allow dd2 to go to him, even though he's said his mother will come and collect her. I feel that she needs stability and needs to be with me and her sister, not her dad who, even though he loves her to infinity, is in a depressive and negative state of mind. I guess deep down I am scared for her safety as he tld me on Friday that he has had visions when driving of steering into a tree I'm so scared and sad for him right now, and feel awful, but I don't think dd2 should go to him.
WWYD? Please help.
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Depressed dh has asked for dd to go and stay with him, I don't feel it's a good idea- what should I do?
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cupofteaplease · 05/09/2010 21:20
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