Just had a row so won't be too articulate sorry.
Just had 3rd baby, and planned with husband to use the two weeks paternity leave to bond with her and establish feeding, I have struggled in the past. We have banned visitors for two weeks to make the most of this time.
The first few days he was fantastic, bringing up steralised bottles ( I am expressing and feeding my milk from a bottle), doing the washing, washing up - everything, even blitzed the kids play room.
Gradually he has been doing less and less. I am up in the night with new born, and also one year old sometimes needs settling too.
Today I have got up with the kids and made them pancakes and allowed him a lie in. I cooked a beef casserole in slow cooker. I have painted a wardrobe (his job for nursery, we got caught out cos baby was early) I have tidied and hoovered lounge and done a load of ironing and putting away - and expressed and fed baby etc. He hasn't dressed the kids today, been in their nightie and pj's all day. He is cutting corners. He did look after the baby while I had a kip, but was feeding her milk I had expressed, and I was up in the night.
We just had a row and he called me a cunt and said I was the laziest person out.
I am so gutted. I take pride in being a mum and put a lot of effort in. Obviously not appreciated, i am gutted that he thinks I am lazy. Was the worse thing he could have accused me of.
He thinks doing the washing is putting it in the machine and then into the dryer. I am always the one ironing it (cos he leaves it all crumpled in baskets) and putting it all away.
He was meant to take the kids to their activities this past 2 weeks, such as music tots, pre school etc. He hasn't taken them once, I knew he wouldn't, always wangles his way out of it.
Don't know what to do now. Not speaking, he just attempted to and I told him to fuck off.
How are we supposed to be appreciated?
Men don't seem to have an idea of the effort involved in in running this show.
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Twatting husband using paternity leave to have a nice little holiday.
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OnEdge · 05/09/2010 20:52
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