whats he up to

[suspiciouslady]

Im in desperate need of someone elses opinion and some good advice.
My bf is a bus driver and yesterday after work he announces he is going to cornwall today (sat) to drive a bus there for some bus rally which is apparently being held there. I thought nothing of it till i thought today that i saw him looking for directions to cornwall on tuesday. I asked him when he found out that he had to do it and he said only found out yesterday(fri). Why look for directions if you dont know your going somewhere.
Anyway i cant get hold of him,he wont text back or answer phone so im just being really suspicious that he has gone there for other reasons like having his end away with some tart. Though i know a four and a half hour drive is a long way to go for sex when he can get it with me anytime he likes. I know men and they are mostly a bunch of liars.
Sorry this is a bit long winded.

[suspiciouslady]

and why the hell cant he answer if he not working now. hes fed up of me being suspicious yet he does nothing to help the situation

[BelleDameSansMerci]

It's quite possible he has no signal if he is in Cornwall. Although that doesn't explain him planning the route. Perhaps there was a possibility he would be required to go but it wasn't confirmed until Friday?

Unless you have a bit more to go on I wouldn't start accusing him just yet

[suspiciouslady]

yeah i have thought about the signal thing.there have been times before when i have sent loads of texts and he has come home and they all come through at once. im just suspicious alot which doesnt help.
thanks x

[BelleDameSansMerci]

Feeling suspicious/insecure about someone is a horrible feeling. I do understand the gnawing ache and fear. I hope you hear from him very soon.

[piratecat]

have you been suspicious before op?

[suspiciouslady]

yes i have a bit

[IseeGraceAhead]

You said he's fed up of you being suspicious. How did this come about? Did he cheat on you before or something?

[suspiciouslady]

no hes just always hiding his phone from me so i get suspicious. he texts about half hour ago saying he hates being away i text back no reply.i think maybe no signal so i text twice more and nothing so i call and he dont answer grrrrr

[IseeGraceAhead]

Oh, okay. He HIDES his phone, or just puts it in his pocket or something?

[suspiciouslady]

no he hides it and takes it literally everywhere he goes

[IseeGraceAhead]

You know what? That would make me suspicious, too.

[teahouse]

If you are that suspicious I seriously think you should see someone. Regardless of whether your suspicions are valid, you seem to have an issue that is potentially getting out of control.

Mobile reception in Cornwall is terrible and if he is meeting other bus ethusiasts he may want to spend time indulging his passion, rather than answering 'check up' calls.

Personally I'd feel insulted if I was treated to such suspicion. Even in a marriage people are entitled to some private life... and not trusting him is likely to cause some real problems at some point. And once you have a suspision, nothing he will do will make that go away - like a conspiracy theory, your doubts will just get stronger as whatever his reasons for not replying, you run the risk of thinking 'well, he would say that wouldn't he'.

Relate do counselling for couples and for single people in their marriages; maybe go and confront your issues before they get totally out of hand; sorry but it does sound like you might have one.

[cornishpasty]

I live in Cornwall and have no problems with phone signal at all.

[UnholyMoley]

Do they even have electricity in cornwall?