I don't feel I can win with my husband at the moment.
I've been a SAHM for a while after giving up a good legal career. DH earns OK money but not an awful lot. It's more than enough to live on but not to have the standard of living we both want (nice house, one decent holiday, lunch out now and again etc). He is in agreement with this as well as he also wants to spend money on stag trips, season ticket etc. He has never given me money so, up until now, I have been relying on maternity pay and my savings to fund the shortfall. He has paid all household bills, holidays etc though - I have funded all my expenses as well as DS clothes and stuff. However I don't want to spend any more of my savings and feel I need to go back to work.
So I am about to go back to working freelance a couple of days a week. DS is in school and I can organise my work most of the time to still be able to pick him up and not rely on childcare too much.
However DH always seems to have an issue with it. On the few occasion I have had to rely on him he has made a massive deal about it (he has to work etc) despite the fact that he works from home and didn't have to pick them up til 6pm. I also feel (maybe wrongly) that he deliberately arranges things when I need him to sort DS so that either he can't or that it is a major problem (cue huffing and puffing).
Fact is, he wants me to work as we need the money but he doesn't want it to have any impact on him whatsoever.
I know he is being an arse but what to do. Do I confront it and turn it into a massive issue or do I just ignore it and force him to do it despite his whinging.
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Can't win with my husband
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cornishone · 01/09/2010 10:41
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