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Coping with being a single parent suddenly

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judeanne · 31/08/2010 20:16

My partner left 5 weeks ago. (We were having problems and were discussing ending the relationship) He left my father to tell me he'd moved out (while I was visiting relatives) and his sister in law told me he wasn't coming back. A few weeks later he sent a text that can only be described as a suicide note. The police were called, he has since been seen by social services and is receiving some psyhciatric help (I believe). I have been told that he doesn't want to see me, talk to me or even be in the same building as me - it's all my fault, etc and here I am, left with two children under four to look after, a house to run and a full time job to maintain. His sister in law is being vile to me, he has seen the children once in the last 4 weeks (with some close friends present to ensure he was ok). I am not allowed to know anything about his condition or contact him in any way unless he contacts me. I feel awful and am at a complete loss as to where to turn for help.

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fandango75 · 31/08/2010 20:53

gosh so sorry - do you have family or friends nearby? i dont have much advie but didnt want you to go unanswered

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JaynieB · 31/08/2010 20:56

It sounds like your partner has had some kind of breakdown. All I can suggest is to try and keep some semblance of normality going for you and the kids and maybe try and keep the lines of communication open for when your partner is well enough to speak with you.

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bumpybecky · 31/08/2010 20:59

you poor thing :(

have you anyone in real life you can talk to? is your Health visitor sympathetic? perhaps you could ask for help from Homestart. I'm guessing practical support with the children even for an hour or so a week might help?

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judeanne · 31/08/2010 22:37

I have some very supportive friends, and my family are helping where they can but live 120 miles away. I just wish social services would tell me something - i know they can't due to patient confidentiality, but it seems a bit odd that the affect it might have on the children has not been taken into consideration.

Thank for advice about health visitor - will give her a call.