Married but feelings towards a friend

[parachute]

Please give me some advice.

My husband and I are going through a sticky patch. Nothing that can't be worked on and worked through...I hope.

I have however been having feelings towards our friend. I don't even fancy him really - it is more of a lust thing.....in fact I don't even want sex with him but I just fantasise about him shoving me up against a wall and kissing me very passionately.

I don't want anything to happen but we are alone sometimes and I am a bit scared that if I were to have had a few drinks that I might just do something I regret and regret very much.

I am sure friend feels the same as he's all but said it straight out in conversation.

Do I just try and not be alone with him which will be hard as he just pops in now and again or appears with his girlfriend. Similarly, we pop into see them.

Or, do I ask to see him and say that I don't think we should be alone for a while (to try and get this out of my system). Tell him that I don't want to make an idiot of myself in front of him or for both of us to do something we regret.

Please help me with these stupid feelings.

[lazarusb]

Avoid being alone with him. At the moment he is forbidden fruit but you know the pain this could cause to all four of you. It really isn't worth it. If you want your marriage to get through this rough patch and make it work, you know you have to regard this 'crush' as something you need to ignore and forget about.
Take off the rose coloured glasses and put some distance between you, focus on things about him that irritate you...there will be something! I hope you can resolve this. :)

[BottleOfRum]

Going through the same thing at the moment. I have stopped drinking when in his company, as I know I would never make sure a mistake sober, but would be likely to if under the influence. Not sure what that says about me or my relationship, but I haven't done anything I regret, so it works.