Or as scary as Zena Warrior Princess.
Went out with ex today with dc's. All going well. Ds (ASD) has a tantrum, which results in us having to leave the restaurant we are in. All very stressful. I bundle ds into the car at which he goes into full blown meltdown at having to leave. Ex suddenly snaps and screams in ds's face while very roughly shoving him into his car seat and putting the seatbelt on. Both dc look terrified. I grab ex and tell him to take his hands off ds and to sort him self out.
We get in the car and drive off, he begins to explain himself or rather blame me, apparently I was angry too, I am a lazy parent and this is why ds behaves like this, I shouldn't have wound the situation up by intervening, basically I should have just sat there and watched him do that to my 7 year old ds because he would have stopped and ds does not need me to protect him from ex. I short it was entirely my fault. I just kept repeating quietly (dc's couldn't hear) "you shouldn't have done that, you scared him" to whatever he said, refusing to let him make it about me, he then screamed "Dickhead" into my face "let me out of the fucking car" (still screaming) and kicked the door as he got out. I slammed on the locks and drove off.
Apparently via text message I have been informed it is all my fault, I make him this way and he will be a better parent on his own. Didnt address his losing his temper at all just my reaction to it. All these situations are ALL my fault ALWAYS apparently.
What do you think of this. Because I sort of think I must have some sort of super strength of some kind of evil powers to make a self governing human being behave like this?
I am being light hearted but I am actually still shaking from this, he sometimes did this kind of thing when we were together too and I cannot tell you the relief I felt as I drove off know we do not live together anymore and I wouldn't have to deal with him again (apart from by text message) today.
Ds says he never wants to see his dad again and he hates him. This too according to his father is ALL MY fault.
I just wanted to get this all out really. Horrible, horrible day.
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I think I must be some kind of evil genius.
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DoctorEvil · 20/08/2010 18:32
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