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best friend, not so best!!!!!!!!!!!!

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nomorebooze · 18/08/2010 15:57

Hello peeps! How would you handle this continious problem? My best friend of 17yrs keeps doing the same thing in regards to relationships.

She sees a man who she knows isnt good for her, slates him behind his back eventually dumps him after he does something which she calls the last straw!!![ sometimes a yr later ] then crys her eyes out on me that hes a bbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbb then swears she wont do it again. blah blah blah.

Then to top it all off i hear a few months later shes seeing him again, wwwwwhhhhhhhhhhyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy???????.

The last time she repeated this senario we had a good chat, and she asked me to be firm with her and point it out to her if she did it again! so here we are again, pointed it out and shes gone quite and funny with me!!!!!!

i told her i was there for her and if that was what she wanted i would always be there for her.

The other bizarre thing is whenever she meets someone, she has never introduced them to any of her friends, this to me says alot, why would you do that?

How do i handle this? its starting to really piss me off! and i dont want to feel this way with her!

Any advice please?


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HelishAngel · 18/08/2010 16:38

I'm not surprised you're pissed off with her behaviour NMB.

I have similar traits sadly but this book has helped me no end...maybe your friend could use a copy...

"He's Scared She's Scared - Understanding the Hidden Fears that Sabotage Your Relationships" by Steven Carter and Julia Sokol

Don't be mislead by the title...loads in there on why commitmentphobes are the way they/we are, how we are drawn to wrong'uns and what we can do to change our behaviour etc.

Hope this helps a tad!

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nomorebooze · 18/08/2010 20:35

Thanks helish Smile

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