Our long-awaited DC was born earlier this year and I have been struggling ever since then to interest DH in having a life as a family.
Before DS was born, we both had very active social lives, with lots of friends in common and separate friends too. We were out most nights in the week, together and separately.
Now my life is very different (can't really go out unless it is to someone's house when I can take DS and put him to sleep in another room) but DH's is much the same. He goes out to the pub several times a week, plus gigs, seeing friends etc.
This means he rarely sees DS in the evenings, and almost never gets up with DS - who is a very early waker - in the morning, either during the week or at the weekend (he has done it a handful of times since DS has been born). As a result I am knackered and feel like I am permanently on duty with DS with no break.
This weekend DH is away on a cycling weekend with his mates. He called just now and told me he was thinking of calling the church band leader (he plays in a band at our church) to say he could play tomorrow evening. This would entail yet another evening out for him. I suggested to him that actually, having been away all weekend and not having seen me or DS, he might like to come home and spend some time with us. He got the hump over that and behaved like I was trying to tell him what to do.
The thing is, I don't want to tell him what to do, I want him to willingly spend time with me and DS as a family and he just doesn't see it as a priority. I am about this and don't know what to do anymore...
Sorry, bit long and rambling I know.
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How can I make DH interested in family life?
pinkypanther · 14/08/2010 19:27
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