On Monday after staying up all night thinking I made the decision to move out to my mums with our 7 month old DD for a few months.
DP was diagonosed with Bipolar2 a couple of months ago following a complete breakdown and manic episodes when DD was a few weeks old. DP was drinking and doing a lot of cocaine in the house,having manic episodes, staying in bed all day, aggressive etc.
He now has stopped the drinking and cocaine and is having treatment to stop smoking cannabis. He then can have therapy for the bipolar.
We haven't been living as a couple since DD was a few weeks old. I have been struggling through to bring up our DD and manage the trauma caused by his behaviour for months. There are daily arguments and he says I am torturing him,punishing him,that I'm unreasonable etc.
He says I should stay to help him as I am the mother of his child.
I have said I want him to spend as much time as he can with us or DD when I have moved out. We are also starting couples counselling soon. It has taken ages for him to be able to commit to that.
I am confused now though as since I have told him on Monday he has done a complete turn around and is acting calm and trying to help with DD.He is trying to persuade me to stay.I don't know whether this behaviour can last.I am fed up of all the mood swings and never knowing what kind of a day or hour even it will be.I just want some peace and stability and some time to breathe.
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Told DP I'm leaving
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floppops · 12/08/2010 11:57
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